We all write our own stories in different ways but so often we question and doubt ourselves and our achievements. Self Doubt can be our biggest hurdle and whilst some self-doubt can be helpful in avoiding mistakes it can also be responsible for squashing future goals and dreams. This year I plan to remove self-doubt from my mind and live my life free of critical judgement, this, of course, is a big claim and in itself in danger of self-doubt but in accepting this challenge I am muting my inner saboteur and persevering.
The methods below should help to remove negativity and critical judgement that can seep in when you are on the verge of a new and exciting chapter.
Analyse your feelings
If self-doubt does start to creep in, stop and analyse your feelings. Why are you feeling this way? What has prompted this sudden doubt? Ask yourself these questions and find the best way to answer them. Try to understand why your first gut reaction is to immediately start doubting yourself and try to combat this in a positive and kind way.
Embrace the unknown
When beginning a new chapter or starting something unfamiliar embrace the fact that you have no idea what the future holds and the fear that comes with that. Stand strong in the belief that you can succeed at what you are pursuing and at the end of the day if things don’t go as plan, mark it down as a life experience and learn from it. Nothing is too big to come back from as long as you have your health and your determination.
Celebrate your accomplishments
Often we focus on the negative accomplishments, we chastise ourselves for not doing something correctly or not succeeding in a goal we had. Concentrate on positive daily accomplishments no matter how small, celebrate the successes you achieve as you achieve them. Highlight the triumphs of each day whether that was handing in an assignment, finishing a workout, cooking a healthy dinner or simply making the bed first thing in the morning.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Comparison is the thief of joy, that statement is true in every aspect of life. If we constantly compare ourselves to others and the outward images they protect we can feel inept. Social media is a platform to share our lives but no one ever really shares their struggles, just their shining moments so try to avoid comparing your current situation to another person as most of the time they are not really sharing their true situation either.
Practice Self Love
Self-love is a gift we give ourselves, the less we put ourselves first the more likely we are to succumb to self-doubt and critical thoughts. Try and stay positive with your journey, honour all avenues that you end up taking and be proud of where you are in life. If you are not sure where to start they check out the #NovemberSelfLove Challenge for some guidance.
Talk it out
Find someone you trust and discuss your possible pitfalls that may cause concern or doubt. Let the fear that is bottling up inside you out, sometimes all we need to take a step in the right direction is to soundboard our ideas of people we know and love.
The new year is full of exciting energy, its time to start putting yourself forward and fully believing in yourself. Let 2019 be the year you achieve everything you wish to achieve.
Do you struggle with self-doubt?
What do you want to achieve this year?